Tonight my three year old said to me Mum it’s ok just have a laugh The grump in you will disappear you’ll see
That’s exactly what happened as soon as she spoke Cleared expectations of being mum to share the joke
Releasing energy stuck in the land of what if Back into the moment of now Sparked by humble words my children gift
I was feeling grumpy tonight. My girls were being absolutely crazy. Overtired from the fun over the weekend and a day home from school to rest and tame some sinus related consequences from a couple of allergy reactions during the week.
It is prime time for injuries just before bed.
I was scared in what ifs of heads hitting the tiles or bed heads.
Running low on the zzz’s all week.
A perfect recipe for me to get my grump on.
I know, I know better.
But, I am human after all, and my limits were pushed.
Futile attempts to calm them down were unmet.
My expectations not even being heard.
I was growing more and more frustrated for not getting my own way and I had a tantrum. Yep, I admit it. I have them from time to time.
It subsided as soon as my three year old calmly sprouted her humbling words of wisdom. She responded consciously to my unconscious reaction. Have a laugh Mum and let it go. Come back and share in this moment of now with us.
Simple as that. She forgave me and calmed me down.
The kid’s game that can help light your path out of negativity.
Hi. My name is Amy, I’m a personal growth addict.
I have consumed a massive amount of content these last 12 months.
All of it has had a golden nugget to add to the toolkit and I don’t regret doing any of it. The person I was last year is, thankfully, a stranger to me.
Besides spruiking personal growth, I want to share a powerful common thread in these teachings — positivity and gratitude.
Ok… I can almost hear you sigh “not another Pollyanna going on about gratitude”…. but here I go anyway.
Gotta be something to it if so many of us are writing about it, yeah?!
The more you notice the positives in your life and feel gratitude for them, the more you will notice and feel grateful for. It trains your brain while spiralling you up out of negativity.
It reminds me of the game “spotto”.
For the unfamiliar, spotto is an Aussie game where you pick a car and yell “Spotto!” every time, you spot one. The less violent version of punch buggy. Handy for a road trip to break up eye-spy or should that be screen time now?
My kids and I play the game by picking a colour, “yellow car” or even “motorbike”. The motorbike was my partner’s idea to train the girls to spot riders on the road. Nothing like being prepared for when they start driving…in 14 years. Maybe we won’t even have cars then? Ok, apologies, I am getting off track.
Back to the positive and gratitude stuff. The same thing goes here, except you use the game to spot the positive stuff in your life. Like catching a beautiful sunset, hearing someone laugh, giving or getting a smile or smelling onions cooking- yep gets my mouth watering every time and I don’t even really like eating onions!
When I started to train my brain to spot the positive, the smaller or seemingly insignificant the better, it became easier and easier to do, until everything feels like it’s positive, even the negative given time.
When I started writing my positive spottos down (or use a free gratitude app) I found myself with a go-to list.
A drama or trauma situation in the past would have left me in a looping overthinking spin for days, weeks and even years. For the most part, these spins last a maximum of a couple of hours until I remember my list. Reading it awakens the positive panda to kick me out of my negative spin and get me smiling again.
It doesn’t take long.
Give it a go, even if it is just to prove me wrong.